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My Prayers Go out to Sandy Hook

Like so many across the country and the world, there is an absolute pain in my heart over what happened on Friday at Sandy Hook. We have been saying so many prayers for the families who lost so much and those who witnessed such devastation. We have been looking at the news stories to get information to answer the questions “how?” and “why?” but we know that the answers that will come will never justify the horrific acts that occurred.

I don’t know how I can explain evil of this kind to my children when I simply cannot understand it myself.  We had no choice but to discuss the events with our almost 4-year-old. He overheard many people talking and he asked us what was going on in Newtown. He knows Newtown, as our favorite ice cream place is there – he picked up on the name of the town pretty quickly, and asked why . We answered him at a very high level – saying someone did something terrible, but that person is gone. We had to be kind to our friends and family, and always show them love, and always do good to others.
As we received the news of our children’s school being on lockdown yesterday (due to the proximity to Newtown) – I felt incredibly vulnerable as a parent. That complete feeling of vulnerability is something that I do not think I will ever be able to shake. From the moment we see a “+” sign on a pregnancy test, hear a heartbeat in a Doctor’s office, or movement on an ultrasound screen, we know that we are carrying something amazing. We do everything we can from that moment on to nurture, love, and protect that life.  It is incomprehensible that there are vicious people in the world who do not value the lives of others – as a parent, it is incomprehensible that there are people who would hurt our children – the people that we would do anything in the world for.

Please join me in praying for the victims and the families in Sandy Hook. I am so sorry that their parents and their families are feeling pain that no person should ever feel.

* I have not, and will not write the name of the murderer in this case – I do not believe that his name should be repeated and truly wish that news sources would focus on the victims, instead of giving any moment of press to the person who wreaked this havoc on so many innocent people. 

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(Source: Huffington Post)

Cassie - December 16, 2012 - 2:56 pm

Dana, thank you for saying this so beautifully. My soul, like all of ours, feels so heavy and broken yet it’s hard to put it into words. I appreciate yours because they’re eloquent and true.

Justine - December 16, 2012 - 9:49 pm

My son has been asking here and there about it, and I’m trying to give him as much truthful information as I can without making him feel unsafe. It’s so hard to walk the line when we feel so vulnerable ourselves. Every morning when I put him on the school bus, I feel this little pang … because it’s all a risk.

On the other hand, as I found myself writing the other day … joy requires risk-taking. And our children are among our greatest joys.

I have a good friend who is good friends with the Marquez-Greene family, and I can’t even imagine their pain right now. My heart is still with them, and with the community of Newtown, and with all of us tonight. Thanks so much for this post, Dana.

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